What to expect & how to prepare for your first session with a Professional Dominatrix

Many submissives miss out on the opportunity to have a truly mind blowing first session due to lack of preparation and nerves, after reading this I hope you feel more confident and prepared than ever to take the leap!

How do I book a Pro Domme?

Do as she says, what does her social media say? What does her ad say? First impressions matter, and if you contact your desired Mistress the wrong way you're not going to make a good one. Send a booking form/email/etc with the right details, times/dates/length of sessions/kinks you'd like to explore. There is nothing less impressive to me than someone who can't get this first step right. Mistresses will often ask for information and a deposit, so please be aware of that before contacting one.

What do I do beforehand?

If there's anything in particular that your Mistress needs you to do, she'll let you know. Prior to a session, you may want to take a look at your Mistress' wishlist and pick something out to bring, I always have fun sessions with the good boys that bring me a little something!

One thing I'd mention is cleanliness, if you've asked for things like anal play, you don't want to give your Mistress a nasty surprise, research douching and give it a try before the day of the session for practice. Prior to your session, shower! Properly! You certainly don't want to arrive to be dominated by a beautiful woman, to have her tell you to get in the shower... That's not the fun kind of humiliation. I'll also take this chance to tell submissives that that includes oral hygiene too, smokers breath has never made anyone excited. Put that bit of effort in and I promise you'll impress your Mistress, wear a smart outfit (no sportwear!), wear some colonge, pop a mint.

What is a first session like?

Well, it's different depending on what Dominatrix, but if you were coming to see me, we would have a friendly chat prior to our session, the difference between the sub I open the door to and the sub I take into the dungeon room are two different people, because I take the time to let them breathe and look at me and realise, I'm just another kinkster like they are.

I explain the rules to my subs, you must say Miss at the end of every sentence, you cannot touch me, we use the traffic light system (amber - slow down/red - stop). I make them strip, and I watch them as they strip to make them nervous. I ask them to fold their clothes nicely and when they forget - I make them put their clothes on and redo the entire routine. I enjoy teasing subs in this way, I'm flirting but I'm reminding them who is in charge.

Throughout our session, I am watching your body language, I'm taking record of what I'm doing and your reaction to it, I'm learning what type of submissive you are and you're learning what type of Mistress I am.